Life Therps: The Gifts of Imperfection
Note: Periodically I want to share what I like to call a "Life Therps" - a blog or a book or a person that's basically like another kind of therps for me. Because not everyone may have the means or the ability or the inclination to see a therapist in person regularly - maybe a Life Therps here will catch your eye. You'll find links to these things in my sidebar as well.
When I first read "The Gifts of Imperfection," I stopped as soon as Brene started talking about numbing. The concept of numbing hit me like a ton of bricks - because I was doing it a LOT. I numb through television binges, eating, and sometimes even drinking. So when she started writing about it openly in her book, my brain was like "Abort abort!" and so I did. For two years.
And then I did read the book, all the way through and it was wonderful. Brene's area of study is in vulnerability, and while she's famous for her Ted Talk on the subject, this book is a real treasure. It's short but powerful. It digs deep into how shame and guilt differ, why sharing our stories of shame sets us free, and why vulnerability matters.
One of the most powerful lessons that I took away from this book was about accessing vulnerability. She wrote that when you avoid being vulnerable, you aren't just blocking and ignoring the bad feelings you don't want to deal with. You're ALSO blocking all the good ones. If you choose to vulnerable, you're choosing to let all the feelings flow through and to you.
If you want to read a book that shares the importance of being enough, check it out.